What Can I Say

I've never talked about this. I work for a woman whose husband has stage four colon cancer. They have been through chemotherapy, surgeries, etc. I have said many prayers for them and their family. They have a four year old and a six year old. They have had Hospice at their house helping out for a few weeks now. I called my boss this afternoon to ask about something work related and she told me that her husband had passed away this morning at 11:14am. I haven't worked for my boss very long but we are a close group. I hate this. I hate that two little girls have to go to sleep tonight knowing they will not have their dad walk them down the aisle at their weddings, hold their children, see them graduate. I hate that they are so young and have to experience something that is so tragic. They are children and it's not fair. I really hate the fact that they will cry and no one can make their boo boo better. I hate the fact that their mom who has just lost her husband, has to have the added agony of telling her children this horrific news and see their tears and have her heart break because she can't make it better for them. Their is always the big picture that we can't see but that doesn't mean that life is fair or that we have to turn off our emotions and pretend everything is okay.
I know the pain of losing someone so close because I lost my first born daughter. The pain is excrutiating and you pray that time eases the pain. You have family and friends who you love but they can't help. There is nothing anyone can say or do to take the pain away. It sucks. It sucks because your family and friends don't know what to say to make it better and forget how to speak to you like a normal human being. You know they are trying so hard and are hurting for you and you feel bad in turn and tell them, don't worry and it's okay. To everyone everywhere: If you have a friend or family member whose experiencing the loss of someone close just hug them and let you know you are there for them. The next time they see you, unless they bring it up, just talk about whatever you normally would. If you don't talk to them because you don't know what to say they will feel even more alone. If you talk about "it" every time, you will fumble because you will run out of things to say. Getting off of my soap box now.
So please pray for my boss, her two children and all of those who loved her husband. They are in a lot of pain right now and need comforting. Please remember to be thankful for those that you love and all that you have. Always tell those you love, "I love you" each time you speak to them. That's all for now.